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The Remarkable Artistic Journey of Jay Abling

January 15, 2013

They say you always remember your first time.

And in the case of Tango, you always remember your first Tanda with someone new.  I believe that memory stays with you no matter how many more times you dance with that same person. The first time I ever danced with Jay Abling was at the Saturday night Grand Ball at the Portland Tango Festival circa 2009. His embrace was soft, yet his lead was clear and musical.  I felt like I was an amazing dancer and could do no wrong, as any good lead makes you feel.  Later that same evening, Jay played the piano while one of the visiting instructors performed, and then played again with “Conjunto Berretin”.  Needless to say, I was duly impressed.

Jay AblingSome of you may be well acquainted with Jay Abling, as he has been teaching, dancing and traveling all over the states for many years now. But what do we really know of Jay? Two things we do know: he is a well-respected Tango teacher and performer and second, he is quite incredible on the Piano. I decided to ask him to expand on these two subjects. This is what he had to say:

The Piano

“My maternal grandmother loved to play the piano whenever she came to visit us. She didn’t know how to read notes and played mostly “by ear.” One day she sat me down on her lap and told me to play 3 notes anytime, while she played on the lower half of the keys. That was my love connection with the piano. My parents had us take lessons at the age of 6 but it was short-lived. After 3 months of dull exercises, I quit. Eight years later, two of my best friends invited me to a recital. They did a skit on the piano while continually playing through Joplin’s “The Entertainer.” I was captivated, and soon after, jumped back into private piano lessons. I stayed on until I graduated high school and continued to play in college. It was there that I learned to play improvised Jazz and Blues, instead of the daily dose of classical repertoire. The combination of the latter styles evidently was useful in learning tango piano. It was Joe Powers who first enticed me to play some tangos with him which eventually led to playing some gigs with Alex’s Conjunto Berretin. Intrigued with the new form, I sought some advice on technique from a phenomenal musician and peer, Evan Griffiths. From there, I just went on to play with Homer and Korey’s Tango Jams at festivals. I still play tango piano on occasion but I’ve been focusing lately on some Chopin pieces. I may play with orchestras but currently, I’m more focusing on my teaching, djing and dancing.”

Betting on Tango

“It all started with a bet. Back then, I was an event planner working on a major fund raising gala. I wasn’t so optimistic about breaking even but my boss was convinced that we would go beyond our mark. We made a bet: she would take Swing lessons if I win. I lost. We ended up taking a month of tango lessons but I didn’t really like it. I went on with my Swing, Salsa and Tap dancing. After ten years of Swing and five years of Salsa, I needed a new dance. So after eight months, I find myself back in a beginning tango class. I just dropped in a couple of times. One of those times, I met one of Seattle’s tango DJs who told me that men learned with other men before they were even invited to go to a milonga. Evidently, men learned to follow (somewhat). So I decided to take private lessons from the same DJ but not as a leader; I wanted to learn to follow first. And I did. I even danced on heels. Granted they weren’t very high, maybe two inches. I wanted to know what I was going to lead and from my experience in Swing, the best way to do that was to learn to follow. After five months I left tango again. I went on to pursue other artistic expressions — singing for the Seattle Symphony Choral and performing at musicals. After a year, I decided that it wasn’t the life for me. Once again, I found myself in a beginning tango class. I was able to pick up a lot more this time around, and unfortunately, found the class on the slow side. The teacher noticed that as well. He refunded me my money and recommended that I should try Jaimes Friedgen (who just recently relocated to Seattle). I took a workshop from him and continued to take his classes. As fate would have it, he was leaving for a while and wanted to train me to take over his classes. At first I hesitated to accept but I changed my mind when he offered to give me his music as well. So I took on his classes, on top of my full-time graphic design career. Upon his return to Seattle, I moved to Portland and from there moved on to become a full-time tango teacher.”

Jay presently lives and teaches weekly classes in San Diego.  Catch him this weekend here in San Francisco.

FRIDAY January 18th at Milonga El Abrazo
Jay will be teaching with the beautiful and talented Mayumi Fujio. Jay will also DJ
8:00 – 9:00pm Class with Jay & Mayumi
9:00 – 2:00am Milonga
Location: Danzhaus – 1275 Connecticut St, SF

SATURDAY January 19th at Milonga El Arrabal
7:30 – 9:00pm Workshop with Jay & Mayumi
“Leading pivots, Doing perfect pivots”
Location: 2929 19th Street at Florida St. SF

SUNDAY January 20th at Alberto’s Milonga in Mountain View
Jay will be DJing from 7pm – 12pm

Filed Under: Learning Tango, Visiting teachers Tagged With: Argentine Tango, Bay Area Tango, Jay Abling, Mayumi Fujio, Milonga El Abrazo, SF Tango

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Part 1️⃣ of the highlights from an amazing nig Part 1️⃣ of the highlights from an amazing night at @thetangodome with Duo Villarreal Crom, featuring Tango Guitarists @juanvillarreal_13 and @patriciocrom ! 💎 watch till the end to see SF’s very own guitarist @scottodaymusic joined them for an encore!

🎸ABOUT THE ARTISTS🎸
Juan Villarreal and Patricio Crom began working together in 2010 playing tangos in milongas and clubs in the city of Buenos Aires. From the beginning, the Duo Villarreal-Crom, tried to find a particular aesthetic and a unique style that they have refined with the passing of the years.

Today they are one of the most renowned duos on the tango scene in Buenos Aires and the world, having made countless tours in Latin America, Europe and the United States.

They have released 4 albums: "De corte romántico (2012)", "Cinco tonos (2015)", "En la luna de Valencia (2017)" and "D'Arienzo en guitarras (2022)". In May 2023 they will present their new album consisting entirely of original works.  In 2022, they were on the cover of the renowned German magazine "Tangodanza", the world's largest tango magazine.
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Check out this cool new research project they are working on: the 𝗧𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗼 𝗜𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗿𝘃𝗲𝘆! (link in bio 🔗)

⏳ It takes about 20-30 minutes to answer some intriguing (anonymous) questions about what you experience as you dance - mental talk, images, sensations, etc.

🎯 Fill it out today and help them reach their goal of 1000 participants by April 30th! They’ll gather neat data to create more empathy and understanding and help the community grow.
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Che! Milonga is a conventional 4.5-hour long milonga with a cozy and casual vibe that happens on 1st and 2nd Saturday of the month at La Pista Tango Studio. 

Tucked away among storage and industrial spaces for local businesses, La Pista is a dedicated tango studio frequently used for classes and workshops. With lighting, seating, wall projection, and table decoration arrangements, our beloved hosts, Ramada and @tanguera_e , put thoughtful touches that give the space a nightclub ambiance.

Check out our February story drop featuring @che_tango_sf (sflovestango.com/che-tango-sf/) and tomorrow, Saturday, April 8, is your chance to dance at their Che Milonga with DJ @kostas_aretos ! 

📸 from Che Milonga on Saturday, April 1st with DJ @ayano.yoneda.tango 
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❤️ 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐡 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲 𝐝𝐫𝐨𝐩 ❤️
Women's History Month is almost over, but celebrating the impact of women is today and every day! 

Remember the Women's Gathering hosted by @ayano.yoneda.tango in the beginning of this year? Are you curious about the 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 and 𝙬𝙝𝙮 behind these events? 
"𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘹𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘷𝘪𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 – 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳-𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘻𝘦𝘥 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 – 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘴𝘢𝘧𝘦 𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘳𝘯𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘴𝘬𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘴, 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘶𝘵𝘴𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘶𝘪𝘭𝘥 𝘢 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘵𝘰𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳." – Ayano Yoneda

More in our latest story drop (🔗 link in bio)!
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