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The Remarkable Artistic Journey of Jay Abling

January 15, 2013

They say you always remember your first time.

And in the case of Tango, you always remember your first Tanda with someone new.  I believe that memory stays with you no matter how many more times you dance with that same person. The first time I ever danced with Jay Abling was at the Saturday night Grand Ball at the Portland Tango Festival circa 2009. His embrace was soft, yet his lead was clear and musical.  I felt like I was an amazing dancer and could do no wrong, as any good lead makes you feel.  Later that same evening, Jay played the piano while one of the visiting instructors performed, and then played again with “Conjunto Berretin”.  Needless to say, I was duly impressed.

Jay AblingSome of you may be well acquainted with Jay Abling, as he has been teaching, dancing and traveling all over the states for many years now. But what do we really know of Jay? Two things we do know: he is a well-respected Tango teacher and performer and second, he is quite incredible on the Piano. I decided to ask him to expand on these two subjects. This is what he had to say:

The Piano

“My maternal grandmother loved to play the piano whenever she came to visit us. She didn’t know how to read notes and played mostly “by ear.” One day she sat me down on her lap and told me to play 3 notes anytime, while she played on the lower half of the keys. That was my love connection with the piano. My parents had us take lessons at the age of 6 but it was short-lived. After 3 months of dull exercises, I quit. Eight years later, two of my best friends invited me to a recital. They did a skit on the piano while continually playing through Joplin’s “The Entertainer.” I was captivated, and soon after, jumped back into private piano lessons. I stayed on until I graduated high school and continued to play in college. It was there that I learned to play improvised Jazz and Blues, instead of the daily dose of classical repertoire. The combination of the latter styles evidently was useful in learning tango piano. It was Joe Powers who first enticed me to play some tangos with him which eventually led to playing some gigs with Alex’s Conjunto Berretin. Intrigued with the new form, I sought some advice on technique from a phenomenal musician and peer, Evan Griffiths. From there, I just went on to play with Homer and Korey’s Tango Jams at festivals. I still play tango piano on occasion but I’ve been focusing lately on some Chopin pieces. I may play with orchestras but currently, I’m more focusing on my teaching, djing and dancing.”

Betting on Tango

“It all started with a bet. Back then, I was an event planner working on a major fund raising gala. I wasn’t so optimistic about breaking even but my boss was convinced that we would go beyond our mark. We made a bet: she would take Swing lessons if I win. I lost. We ended up taking a month of tango lessons but I didn’t really like it. I went on with my Swing, Salsa and Tap dancing. After ten years of Swing and five years of Salsa, I needed a new dance. So after eight months, I find myself back in a beginning tango class. I just dropped in a couple of times. One of those times, I met one of Seattle’s tango DJs who told me that men learned with other men before they were even invited to go to a milonga. Evidently, men learned to follow (somewhat). So I decided to take private lessons from the same DJ but not as a leader; I wanted to learn to follow first. And I did. I even danced on heels. Granted they weren’t very high, maybe two inches. I wanted to know what I was going to lead and from my experience in Swing, the best way to do that was to learn to follow. After five months I left tango again. I went on to pursue other artistic expressions — singing for the Seattle Symphony Choral and performing at musicals. After a year, I decided that it wasn’t the life for me. Once again, I found myself in a beginning tango class. I was able to pick up a lot more this time around, and unfortunately, found the class on the slow side. The teacher noticed that as well. He refunded me my money and recommended that I should try Jaimes Friedgen (who just recently relocated to Seattle). I took a workshop from him and continued to take his classes. As fate would have it, he was leaving for a while and wanted to train me to take over his classes. At first I hesitated to accept but I changed my mind when he offered to give me his music as well. So I took on his classes, on top of my full-time graphic design career. Upon his return to Seattle, I moved to Portland and from there moved on to become a full-time tango teacher.”

Jay presently lives and teaches weekly classes in San Diego.  Catch him this weekend here in San Francisco.

FRIDAY January 18th at Milonga El Abrazo
Jay will be teaching with the beautiful and talented Mayumi Fujio. Jay will also DJ
8:00 – 9:00pm Class with Jay & Mayumi
9:00 – 2:00am Milonga
Location: Danzhaus – 1275 Connecticut St, SF

SATURDAY January 19th at Milonga El Arrabal
7:30 – 9:00pm Workshop with Jay & Mayumi
“Leading pivots, Doing perfect pivots”
Location: 2929 19th Street at Florida St. SF

SUNDAY January 20th at Alberto’s Milonga in Mountain View
Jay will be DJing from 7pm – 12pm

Filed Under: Learning Tango, Visiting teachers Tagged With: Argentine Tango, Bay Area Tango, Jay Abling, Mayumi Fujio, Milonga El Abrazo, SF Tango

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With the holidays coming up and Argentina winning the world cup, dancing tango all night long around Lisette's very own flower arrangements was just the appropriate celebration people needed.

Hosted by Lisette Perelle, Milonga Rubia is held every 1st & 3rd Sunday of the month, with current location at Just Dance Ballroom (2500 Embarcadero) in Oakland and a different DJ for each event.

✨ Fun fact - how Milonga Rubia got its name... ✨

Lisette's Argentine friends have always been calling her 'Rubia' because of her blonde hair. One day about 6 years ago, when she was discussing naming this new milonga with @julian_tangosf, he said, “Why not just call it Milonga Rubia?" That's how Milonga Rubia got its name! The event once was in a venue in Emeryville/Richmond. Once Lisette changed venues to a more southern location (Just Dance Ballroom in Oakland), the event's name was changed to 'Milonga Rubia al Sur' accordingly.
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Last Saturday, Saturday Dec 17, @abrazoqueertango Last Saturday, Saturday Dec 17, @abrazoqueertango hosted their Holiday Bash with performances by @mirabtango and Miranda at @tangodome, a cool art gallery and dance space at 951 62nd St in Oakland.

🏳️‍🌈 Abrazo Queer Tangois a volunteer-run organization, and after expenses, all funds are used to pay for their events and offer discounts to students and folks short on cash. To help the org break even in 2022 and fund its 2023 programs, last Saturday's event was positioned as a fundraiser with a sliding scale $20-$40 for folks to choose how they'd like to show their support, offering a sweet night of performance, community and great music in a magical location. 

Missed the event yet still would like to support Queer Tango? Donations always totally work! Please write *donation* in the comment via your favorite method:
Venmo ➡️ abrazo-tango (Karen Curtis)
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💫 #motivationmonday is not over yet so here is 💫 #motivationmonday is not over yet so here is a quick recap of the International Day of Tango at @greatnorthernsf last night! 💫 Milonga hosted by @julian_tangosf with DJ @loco_chung. 
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This Friday night in the heart of San Francisco, t This Friday night in the heart of San Francisco, tango dancers and the public who are curious art lovers had a unique experience with live music performed by local tango musicians and the strategic mix of TANGO • VALS • MILONGA • ALTERNATIVE music by DJ @jonas.aqui of @jxtango at @drawingroomsf_annex, an art • gallery • studio in the Mission district – a free event by the collaboration of @chetangosf, @drawingroomsf and @artistmigration. 

Artists featured:
Sumi Lee (piano) @sfsumi
J Ramada (bass)
Basma Edrees (violin) @basmaedreesviolin
Verónica Freidkes (vocal) @veroverofreidkes

Check out our stories and story highlights for snippets of the performances and tango dancing around art pieces!
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❣️ about Che! Tango SF❣️

All events created by Ramada Salieri and Elaine Chiu are dedicated to providing an inclusive and friendly dancing and learning environment in San Francisco and the Bay Area regardless of gender, age, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, religion, or any other characteristic or trait.

ONGOING EVENTS
Che! Milonga: Every 1st and 2nd Saturday of the month 
Che! Música + Milonga: Once every quarter on a 2nd Saturday
Milonga Uno: 3rd Saturday of every other month
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❣️ about The Drawing Room SF ❣️

MISSION
The Drawing Room connects community through art to help improve the overall human condition by making art accessible and part of the daily fabric of our lives. 
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❣️about Artist Migration❣️

ANTI CAPITALIST ART
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Those who came out to @tangolabruja last night had Those who came out to @tangolabruja last night had an epic evening of dancing and live music with three highly skillful tango musicians’ improvised music – Trio Tangazo, a dynamite tango trio made up of Sascha Jacobsen (bass), Seth Asarnow (piano), and Adrian Jost (bandoneon). 

~~Fun fact~~
Sascha, Seth and Adrian all performed at La Bruja previously - either with other tango ensembles or in duo - but it was the first time all three of them taking the stage together!

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Have a wonderful holiday everyone!
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✨ FRIDAY NIGHT TANGO ✨ It’s been awhile sin ✨ FRIDAY NIGHT TANGO ✨

It’s been awhile since Milonga La Genesis (hosted by @julian_tangosf) has live tango music. Last night LEO TANGASSO QUARTET was in the house, featuring @leogassomusic from Montevideo, Uruguay on bandoneon,  @smurfetteshum on piano, Stella Bonilla on violin,  @digsmahler on double bass.

(🎥 @tangonnection, edited by @sflovestango)
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👏 The all-female tango ensemble, 𝙇𝙖𝙨 𝘼𝙡𝙢𝙖𝙨, wrapped up their 2022 concert tour at @alameda_elks1015, playing for a full house of guests at the @housetango Community Milonga.

𝙇𝙖𝙨 𝘼𝙡𝙢𝙖𝙨 is a collaboration between powerhouse female tango musicians @sfsumi (piano), @heynisolera (bandoneon), and @teagbby (violin). Their concert on Sunday featured guest bassist @fabricanfabricant and vocalist @teresatam.sing.

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The mission of 𝙇𝙖𝙨 𝘼𝙡𝙢𝙖𝙨 is to present contemporary Argentine tango through virtuosic artistic performance and educational events.  Sumi, Heyni, and Teagan originally bonded in Buenos Aires, drawn by a mutual love of tango music, as well as by a realization of the inequality of professional opportunity for women in the tango genre. They studied under the same maestros and performed with prestigious tango orchestras in Buenos Aires.  They now frequently perform around the world, including in their respective adopted cities of San Francisco (Sumi), Washington, DC (Heyni), and NYC (Teagan). All of the musicians also produce their own music. 
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🎉 Saturday, October 22 marked the grand re-open 🎉 Saturday, October 22 marked the grand re-opening of Vecher Tango at the Russian Center of SF!

After a long pause of two and a half year, the magnificent grand ballroom was filled with tango energy again. What made the occasion extra special was the incredible performances by another visiting master couple @javierchikk & @moiracastellano. To top it off, @virginiaychristian "Los Totis" joined Javier & Moira on the floor for a mixed maestros dance!

Shout-out to our dearest friend Davood Yazdani, Julia Schiptsova of Tango Element, and all the local organizers for making this weekend feel like a mini tango festival in San Francisco!
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✨It's a star-struck tango week in SF!!✨ @vir ✨It's a star-struck tango week in SF!!✨ 

@virginiaychristian "Los Totis" have been teaching in San Francisco (brought to you by our very own Davood Yazdani who's in collaboration with Julia Schiptsova of Tango Element!) And we were mesmerized by their fantastic performances last night at the special edition of @milongamalevaje at @verdiclubsf ! 🤩👏
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💫 Exactly a year later, 𝙇𝙖𝙨 𝘼𝙡𝙢𝙖𝙨, an all-female tango musician collaboration, has returned to the SF Bay Area!! 

Last night they took the audience on a magical journey to Buenos Aires with a concert-milonga at @tangolabruja in Berkeley. Check out our stories to see more snippets of their performance!

𝙇𝙖𝙨 𝘼𝙡𝙢𝙖𝙨 is a collaboration between powerhouse female tango musicians @sfsumi (piano), @heynisolera (bandoneon), and @teagbby (violin). The concert last night featured guest singer @veroverofreidkes.

The mission of 𝙇𝙖𝙨 𝘼𝙡𝙢𝙖𝙨 is to present contemporary Argentine tango through virtuosic artistic performance and educational events. Sumi Lee, Heyni Solera, and Teagan Faran originally bonded in Buenos Aires, drawn by a mutual love of tango music, as well as by a realization of the inequality of professional opportunity for women in the tango genre. They studied under the same maestros and performed with prestigious tango orchestras in Buenos Aires.  They now frequently perform around the world, including in their respective adopted cities of San Francisco (Sumi), Washington, DC (Heyni), and NYC (Teagan). All of the musicians also produce their own music. 

Catch them for the rest of their tour!
🔸10/20 (Thur) 10pm, World Folk Jam concert w/ ten other world music groups, Oakland
🔸10/21 (Fri) 7pm, Sebastopol Center for the Arts
🔸10/22 (Sat) 7:30pm, Sunset Music and Arts, San Francisco
🔸10/23 (Sun) 3:30pm, houseTango Community Milonga @ Alameda Elks Lodge, Alameda
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